As far back as I started having relationship, from my experience, the issue of $ex always causes crisis, from selecting a good boyfriend to a good husband, from a good girlfriend to a good wife. Sometimes even when you select a good girlfriend, she may end up being a bad wife or vice versa. To be honest, not everything in life can be predicted as no one knows tomorrow only God.
$exual problems on any individual can put a damper on your s*x life which means they can lead to some “not so pleasant” relationship issues, especially if they go unaddressed. Yepa!
So, what can we consider to be “$exual problems?” Well, from my small girl’s knowledge, $exual problems, also referred to as $exual dysfunctions, are issues that arise before, during, or even after $exual activity. These problems can occur during any stage of the $exual response cycle, preventing you and your partner from receiving the “gim gim” $exual fulfilment you crave, during foreplay and/or s*x that will make your eyes shine like electric bulb that doesn’t need NEPA.
Unfortunately, however, most of us are reluctant to talk about these types of “issues” for fear of being judged or seen as $ex addicts. Not surprising that even when you become an adult in our society saying the word s*x is almost forbidden giving people the impression you are either loose, lack home training or $ex-starved person.
Well, good news is that most $exual problems can be successfully treated which explains why it is so important to discuss your concerns with your partner. Please, don’t keep quiet about it because that silence alone can cause damage, ignoring or pushing sexual issues aside can lead your relationship down a very rocky path and final destruction.
If your partner is the type to “run away” from talking about $exual concerns with you, you can try to read these words below and talk to your partner if per chance they are experiencing one or more of them. I didn’t say ask every second, use sense, but still ensure you have the discussion to help your relationship grow.
$exual problems that could destroy your relationship
Unable to have an orgasm
I know some people would be hissing reading this by now, orgasm? How dare she talk about it? Well unfortunately, we can’t keep running away from it.
To some, orgasm does not even exist. They don’t even know what it means talk less of experiencing it. Being unable to orgasm can undoubtedly wreak havoc on your $ex life and relationship. This condition can affect anyone, young or old. I read somewhere that it gradually decreases once women hit their 30s and 40s; however, it rises again when women hit their 50s due to hormonal changes.
One of the possible causes of this condition is that women have more casual $ex during their 20s, which may account for the lower incidences of orgasms.
Other reasons you may not be orgasming include not being sexually attracted to your partner anymore, overthinking about orgasming during $ex, feeling guilty for enjoying s*x, and/or having other things on your mind during s*x. This, I agree to and I have observed from my talks with other people.
Or, it could be that your partner is “too aggressive,” during $ex, in other words your partner likes to do gragra in bed too much. Regardless, an inability to orgasm can hurt your relationship because everyone wants their partners to feel $exually satisfied, so if that isn’t happening, it can create problems in your relationship. There are ways you can address this issue. You can discuss with your partner the possible options to use to make life easier for you both. There are lots of options to explore. Feelings of shame, guilt and embarrassment can arise, causing the couple to grow apart. So once you notice there is a problem, get up and fix it.
Experiencing premature ejaculation
Premature ejaculation refers to ejaculation (the release of semen from the body) that occurs before penetration or immediately after it – within one minute or less.
The exact cause of premature ejaculation varies, but the good news is that in most cases, premature ejaculation can be fixed. Men report this as one of their top sexual performance issues. How is it even possible not to be aware of your partner’s problem with premature ejaculation? It is possible to miss the signs, primarily because men with this issue often enter into relationships with women who have little-to-no previous $exual experience.
Why is that? Well, these men feel more comfortable with novice $exual partners who are unaware that they are experiencing premature ejaculation issues. Ironically, inexperienced women often find out their partners are suffering from it, not at the beginning of their relationships, but after dating for months or years or getting married.
If you are curious if your partner is experiencing premature ejaculation, ask yourself the following questions: “Does my partner ‘last’ as long as I would like him to?” And, “How long does it take him to orgasm?”
If the answer to the second question is “less than one minute,” then your partner may actually be suffering from premature ejaculation.