Beware Of The New Disease Killing Middle Class And Rich Parents In Nigeria
By Anayo M. Nwosu
This disease is not new to the Yoruba’s and many families in the South, especially in Nnewi, where you have the highest density of millionaires per extended family in Nigeria.
That was why I resisted, to a marriage-break point, that my wife would deliver our children in the USA even after she had surreptitiously secured visa and was ready to fund the trip.
“No!” I insisted. “They must be born here, but we could always travel on holidays. It will be their call to decide as adults where they will live. I won’t buy guns and bullets for them; the very gun that would inflict pain on me”, I explained to a disinterested wife.
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In retrospect and as my wife would always rub it when I complain about a dislocated country Nigeria has become and the dashed dreams, I have resisted the temptation of regretting my decision not to facilitate foreign or dual nationality on my kids at birth.
I reasoned, “Who will then develop or sustain the development of Nnewi if they relocate and refuse to come back? Who will quickly answer when I call especially when I’m old? Would they treat me as I did my mother at her old age with what I see around me?”
I have seen big family businesses and dreams go down because none of the children sent abroad to study is interested in the businesses.
The kids were raised in Nigeria, speaking only English; growing up to learn that speaking their native languages makes them appear too local.
Their mums would proudly tell relations during a village visit that “they don’t understand our local language, please speak English to them”.
These kids are enrolled in the Primary and Secondary schools that strictly run American and European curricula.
The kids are processed for export at very tender ages.
These children, gain admission abroad, graduate and remain there, imbibing the good and the bad of the western culture.
As the parents get older, the kids who have assimilated foreign orientation would not agree to return. Then the disease has now manifested.
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The father will start blaming the wife for deceiving him into the excessive foreign trainings of their kids.
The businesses will collapse and the elders and relatives in the village will convert all the family land.
My experience during my meetings with many of these exported children now grown adults in the UK, top European Capitals and USA were eye-opening.
Not all parents are unlucky, but most are quite a disaster.
Countless of these children don’t even come home to bury their dead parents. As the head of my extended family meeting, I have used my eyes to see my ears. It’s heart rendering.
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Look around you and see the manifestation of this disease. The sufferers are mostly in denial. They sound their living and bedrooms with pictures of children that don’t respond to older parents. It’s a self-inflicted old age agony.
Your choice today on how you raise your kids may affect your happiness in your old age.
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