It’s difficult to forget the first person you opened up yourself to emotionally and no matter who else comes into your life, they’ll always occupy a soft spot in your heart if your separation or breakup wasn’t toxic.
This may actually sound very funny but if you can be honest with yourself, there are moments you lie in your bed relishing old memories you had with your first love.
No matter who comes into your life after your first love, the energy won’t be the same because you find it difficult pouring in the same amount of love you did during your first encounter with love.
You may be trying so hard to deny that you’ve gotten over your first love, but if you still feel these emotions, you may be lying to yourself.
1. When you start looking for funny reasons to stay in touch
Have you ever picked up the phone to call your first love asking if any of their siblings passed JAMB? Have you called pretending it was a mistake? or have you called to ask about time for early morning mass? It doesn’t matter how long it took you to ask these questions but one thing is clear you’re finding it hard to let go.
It is normal that you miss the person with whom you’ve spent a lot of time and for whom you are linked with many memories, but it’s important to know when it’s enough.
2. You compare everyone else to them
This happens a lot whether the relationship ended on a good or a bad note because you are still looking for the qualities you first fell in love with in another individual.
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It’s easy for humans to default to relieve the past when we’re not happy with the present, but if the past is still lingering even when we’re happy with our now, chances are we aren’t done with it in some way.
3. You call him or her when you need help
You need a cooking recipe you call, you need to know where she buys your favourite cooking ingredients you call. You call every minute because you find it hard to let go.
In fact, this is the strongest proof that you still love him/her and to that, you trust him/her more than others
4. Stalking him or her on Social media
When you start monitoring his or her activities on social media chances are that you’re not still over your first love. When you take the time to analyze every comment and every reaction they get from their posts, you can’t let go.
5. Being with them is natural, even after time passes
Perhaps it may have been years since you last saw one another. Yet, when you do get together say at a friend’s wedding, it feels like you never split apart. This is simply a sign that both of you have held onto the familiarity and emotions that got you together, to begin with. It’s also a sign that you guys have unfinished business.
Now next time you shed a tear along a particular song that just reminded you of your first love, just know that you’ve not let go? Want to rekindle the flame? Maybe you can try by calling who knows, there might be new flames…
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