Why Marriage Is Not As Bad As You Think

There is a growing sense of acute insecurity that sometimes amounts to paranoia whenever millennials talk about marriage. This fear has led to many giving up on marriage, and toying with the idea of having a baby solo, or not having a baby at all.

For men, the urge to waste Friday nights with friends soaking away in liquor is high, commitments are avoided because of the perception of marriage being an economic arrangement rather than a union based on love.

Almost everyone likes the idea of being married but still having the ability to maintain the freedom that comes with being single. The internet is full of negativity about marriages with some becoming like an egg, ready to crack. Divorce papers are signed faster than pay cheques and people move on quite easily as if nothing ever happened.

Married Couples enjoying good relationships have given thousands of clues and advise on how marriages can stand the test of time but it is difficult to win against the idea of marriage that has evolved over time and partners now want different things after the ink has dried on the marriage certificates.

Most people who loathe the idea of marriage do so because they have not found the idol for their idolatry; they don’t feel they have found someone who completes them while some who were raised in a dysfunctional home don’t just believe in the institution because they watched their parents fight every day.

For others, the thought of waking up to see the same face in the morning is torture, or maybe because he/she is tired of petty issues like leaving a blob of toothpaste on the sink or a streak of urine on the toilet seat.

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While it must be admitted that there are toxic marriages, where partners fight every day which may even lead to death, there are good marriages too. Marriages are like aeroplanes, we don’t hear about the ones that landed safely, only the one that crashes makes the headlines.

Notwithstanding the scathing headline you’ve read about marriage, most Nigerians are married and the ones not married would want to be married someday. Sadly, many people who desire to marry have lower income and can’t even nurse the thought of building a home at the appropriate time.

Are all marriages bad? No. If you are considering giving marriage a try, go ahead but make sure you have the exact idea of what you want and who you want to marry so you don’t end up sleeping with the enemy.